Subtle Imitation

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.

Charles Caleb Colton

My clock ticks and it says 4:38 pm (Manila time) as I type this, and my eyes are still drooping from staying up so late last night. I was not able to do anything yesterday except debugging this website the entire freaking day, trying to find and fix errors. Having got used to endless physical activities (thanks to my hyperactive 3-year old kid), my body now hates staying still at one place for hours doing the same thing. And when I finally gave up figuring out what went wrong, I just soaked up the internet and visited every social networking site I currently have. That’s when I noticed I have pushed someone’s button.

It could be just a coincidence and my own paranoid thought, but I really was trying my best to rationally gauge every angle of that person’s statement. I could have just let it go and assumed that it was not intended for me nor was it directed at me. But the mere fact that something I said was made the basis of a subjective opinion about a certain subject made me think that, maybe, that person did it on purpose because I was being offensive.

When you do something new or are new to doing something, you have a very great tendency to imitate somebody. You copy at first but discover your own taste and preference and develop your own style eventually. But when you’ve been doing something you are good at for so long and it unintentionally resembles someone’s work at one point – even if your ideas actually precede another person’s – the act of imitation becomes debatable.

Chances are that people will have the same ideas, works, or thoughts if they are on the same wavelength. If you are capable of providing logical reasoning, you don’t say someone hates somebody just because you feel that you are, or that something is, being imitated. You just have to admit the fact that there are people who are way better than you and come to terms that these people have the ability to strategically execute their ideas the same as yours more effectively.

Subtle imitation of one’s behavior, on the other hand, is somehow an acceptable norm. According to Science, people prefer other people who mimic their gestures to conform to society and to feel competent. But in some people’s case, apparently, their frustrations and state of being inadequate threaten them. And because they find it hard to contend against someone who is always one step ahead, a strong desire to project sweeps over them. Their lack of confidence makes other people smell the stench of their insecurities leaking out zanily – the kind of smell that just won’t go away.

Seriously, why torment yourself when you actually have other better things to do or are able to do things with some degree of perfection because you excel in them?

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